Pieces of Us...

- Tuesday, July 27, 2004

I'm So Sassy

Monica; 9:11 PM 1 comments

Counting Down the Days..... -

Ah, every day is becoming so long. It seems like I am waddling instead of walking now. I know as soon as Chase drops lower, it will become even more difficult to walk. Whine, moan, groan.... As I said yesterday, the doctor has cut me back to 4 hours a day at work. So I'm going to start going in at 1:00 p.m. and working until 5:00 p.m. At least I can sleep in a little during the mornings and get a few things accomplished before I have to go off to work. Jonathan can get Skyler up in the mornings, get her dressed, fix her hair and feed her breakfast. I guess thats a lot more than what a lot of husbands can do. I tried to involve Jonathan in child rearing as much as possible. I hate to see a man who can't do anything for his kids. Some of the people I work with, their husbands don't do anything with the kids. Pardon me, but I work full time also, so I think the child responsibilities should be shared. Not to mention if I up and died, God forbid, if Jonathan didn't even know how to take care of his own kid....

I took Skyler to the Pic*ture Pe*ople the other day and had her photo made. I wanted to leave her hair down because usually I put it up when she has her picture made, but I wish now I had at least pulled it back a bit. The pictures turned out pretty good though. I'll put a couple of them up here on this post. She is such a ham. They gave us an invitation to enter a personality contest they are doing. She will pose and prance about whenever they ask. She is so funny.

I've been thinking about this blog. I think that I will not talk about work so much. I know a lot of people discuss a lot about their work, but I think if someone from work ever came across your blog and read some of the horrible things you may have said about someone. Well you might just end up jobless. Not that I have anything horrible to say about anybody or anything. I actually enjoy my job. I mean I really enjoy it. I also like most everyone I work with. Its a small group, only about 20 or so employees, a non-profit association. I guess I'm really lucky to really enjoy my job. I've had lots of jobs over the years. With Jonathan being in the military 4 years was the longest we ever really stayed anywhere. I'm a paralegal/legal assistant by trade and I've worked for all kinds of attorneys. I've also worked for the JAG for the Dep*artment of Def*ense in Germany. I could really tell you some stories there! We did med-mal for all of Europe. I just have one thing to say about military hospitals and doctors.... After working for JAG in their medical malpractice department..... I NEVER went to a military doctor or military hospital ever again! I've always worked my own job and had my own insurance. That was a must. I really feel for a lot of people who have no other choice. I'm not saying that there aren't some good military doctors and hospitals, but 9 times out of 10 the enlisted soldiers and their family members "get the shaft" so to speak.

I could go on for days about the military life. I know we really miss it sometimes, but I'm certainly glad Jonathan isn't in the Army now. I have an old web page up that I made when we were just getting out. At least I think its still up. Here is the link: http://www.geocities.com/Pentagon/Bunker/7952/

Well its off to watch some Bi*g Bro*ther 5 and Am*azing Ra*ce for me tonight. I am so into this reality TV crud. Have you heard of the new UPN show "Am*ish in the Ci*ty." Now that one should be a real hoot. I know, I know... A lot of you out there despise reality TV, but I am totally hooked. I couldn't live without my DVR. Good night!

Counting Down the Days..... Monica; 7:25 PM 0 comments

- Monday, July 26, 2004

New Boat

Monica; 4:53 PM 0 comments

Just Another Day... -

For years Jonathan has wanted to buy a Har*ley-Dav*idson. I always argued with him saying that he would get killed, etc. He had a motorcycle (well I politely called it a "crotch rocket" before we were married). When I went to Germany to visit him he took me out on his bike and down the Autobahn. Needless to say, I refused to ever step foot on the back of his bike after that and after we were married he sold it. We couldn't afford it at the time and he needed a vehicle to drive so we could both ride in it and he had been in so much trouble on the bike over there, that it was decided it was best to get rid of it. Anyway, ever since then he has wanted a motorcycle, but I refused because he was so dangerous on one and now we have kids. So he finally relented and we decided to get a boat instead. We bought a used 1998 Bay*liner. Its a fairly small boat, I guess one might call it a "starter" boat or something. I thought it was a decent deal and in our price range and at least its something the entire family can use. Whereas a motorcycle would just be something he would use alone and not with the family. I guess I won't get to go out on it any this year with being pregnant and Chase arriving in just a few short weeks. But I think it will be something fun we will be able to use together as a family come next summer. Now we just have to figure out where to park the dang thing.

So the doctor has put me on half days at work. It really sucks in a way, because I'm losing more than half my pay. When I was pregnant with Skyler I didn't have any short term disability. By my 7 month they wanted me on full time bed rest because of low amniotic fluid. Well there was no way in hell I could go 6 months without my entire paycheck, so I took one week off on bed rest and then worked half days up until a few weeks before I had Skyler. So this time, I get smart and a couple of years ago I go buy myself some AF*LAC disability insurance. I'm thinking, ok, you guys wanna put my ass off on bed rest at 7 months this time, bring it on baby! I've got it covered! But hell no! This time everything is great (which I am definitely thankful for, don't get me wrong). And not only does she not put me off work so I CAN draw disability, but she puts me on half days! Geeze, I can't win for losing! Bitch session over for now....

So at least I can come home and rest (or post to this blog) for a bit before I have to go pick the Punk (our pet name for Skyler) up from school. Its nice to get a little breather before I have to come home and run around like a chicken with my head cut off cooking supper, feeding, playing, bathing and getting her ready for bed. I'm such a whiner.

Today is Jonathan's first day back in the shop. As I mentioned before, he was sicker than a dog this past weekend. I am really hoping now that he is back there he will have to work less hours. The store was just killing him. He was doing great though. He took the store from the bottom of the barrel to the number one sales store in the entire company (and there are over 220 stores). Not too bad for a punk ass shop manager with absolutely NO store experience. He surprised a lot of people at his company that's for sure. I think he is going to miss the challenge of the store though. But dang, working 12 hours a day 6 to 7 days a week with a young family back home for no extra pay. Screw that. We need him home some to!

I am so lucky to have such a great job. They are really understanding about the pregnancy thing. They have totally let me come and go as I please in these last few weeks. Need to work strange hours, shorter hours, etc. They are totally supportive. My doctor can't believe how great they are. Heck, I can't believe how great they are. I'm very lucky that's for sure. I'm also planning on changing my hours once I go back to work at the end of October. I'm going to go in really early and get off around 3:00 p.m. so I can go pick up Skyler and be home with time to spare in the evenings. Its so difficult to get off at 5:00 p.m., run to two separate daycares (which are approx. 15 miles apart), come home and cook supper and then start the bedtime routine. By the time I pick Skyler up from daycare and got home, it was 6:00 p.m. I'm sure it would be even later when I have to pick them both up. So they are working with me to change my hours so I can leave earlier and work a few hours from home. I can totally log into my computer from home and its just like I'm sitting at work. Its really awesome. (Please remind me of this post the next time I start bitching about my job)....

Okay, enough for now. I better go get Punk and get her home. We are having frozen lasagna from Sam's tonight. Yum! At least I don't have to really cook (like I ever do anyway).

Just Another Day... Monica; 4:23 PM 0 comments

- Sunday, July 25, 2004

Lets Play

Monica; 6:07 PM 0 comments

Sick Day -

Today has been a long and lazy day. Jonathan was supposed to work outside today on the deck. I won't get into this long discussion, but he is the world's worst proscrastinator. He hates doing anything at the house, i.e., mowing the yard, housework, yard work, etc. He basically just wants to work and come home and sit on the couch. Anyway, we paid someone to come clean our deck and he was supposed to stain and seal it afterwards. Well its been almost a month and he still hasn't done it. So today he was going to ask my brother, Bruce (who lives with us) to help him do it. But needless to say, he woke up this morning saying he was sick. So no deck stained today. I'm sorry to hear he is sick, but it just seems every time he is supposed to do something, something else comes up. I know I sound like a real bit-- for complaining that he is sick, but you would just have to know the whole long sob story about how lazy he can be. He knows it, so this is nothing new. He has all the energy in the world when it comes to playing golf, playing softball, going out with his buddies to play cards or drink beer, etc. But God forbid if you ask his ass to do something around the house, he is too exhausted, says he will do it "tomorrow" or comes up with every other excuse on this planet.

The one good thing I can say about him is he normally is pretty helpful when it comes to Skyler. But he isn't here very much, so that isn't saying much. He has recently switched positions with his company and we are hoping that he will not be working the 12-15 hours per day 6 to 7 days a week that he recently has been working for the last 2 years. He is a manager, so no matter if he works 8 hours or 16, he gets paid the same. I've just been really resentful because he works so much and it basically just means he is away from us, and not earning an extra cent.

Skyler has been okay today. I know she hates staying cooped up in the house all day. She and I are normally constantly on the go. But since I have been in my last trimester of the pregnancy, we basically haven't been running around as much as usual. She normally asks me on the weekends as soon as she wakes up, "Where are we going Mommy?" Now thats bad. For the longest time she would get really angry if we didn't go somewhere. Since my last trimester I have tried to cut back on us keeping the roads hot because I know once Chase arrives, our running days are coming to an end. At least for awhile, anyway.

Skyler goes to a Christian school that is like 1/2 mile from our house. Its been very convenient. I don't think I would send her there when she actually starts school, but its great for now. She will turn 3 on August 23rd. So she is in the Pre-K class. I dread when the actual school year starts on August 16th because she will have to start wearing dresses every day to school. There is no way in hell I would have worn a dress to school every single day.

I guess I will still be in the hospital when she starts school on the 16th. Chase is scheduled to be delivered on the 13th. Everyone is still giving me a really hard time because its Friday the 13th. Get over it people! Geeze. As if having someone cut you wide open and delivering your child isn't stressful enough. I don't want to hear this crap about how bad luck and what a bad day it is.

As you can tell, I'm in a really great mood today. Not! I guess I was just expecting to have a little help with Skyler today, but no such luck. It really sucks not having any family live near you. My parents live in Tennessee and help out when they can. But you really can't expect much when they live 3 1/2 hours away. Of course, that is really close. This is the closest we have ever lived to them in our entire 14 year marriage. So its been nice to at least be able to drive home on a long weekend or something. When we lived in Germany for 4 years we only made it home one time. That really sucked.

Well I totally do not feel like writing more today. I'm worn out from running around after Skyler by myself today. Please tell me how people did it back in the old days when they had 8 kids one after another? I can barely move and take care of Skyler while I'm in this last month. At least I only have about 3 more weeks to go. Then I'll be chasing a 3 year old and taking care of a newborn. Whew.

Sick Day Monica; 5:48 PM 0 comments

What in the World?!?! - Saturday, July 24, 2004

You are NOT going to believe this one. So yesterday I took Skyler to the doctor. For a week or so now she has been complaining whenever she had to go pee. She would refuse to pee when we put her on the toilet and she would ask for a drink of water and would want to hold your hand, etc. And then she started holding it so long and then it would hit her and she had two accidents in one day. Now mind you since she has been potty trained, she has only had like 5 accidents in an entire year! She had an accident at school yesterday as she was awakening from her nap. Then while we were at Babies-*-Us doing some last minute shopping for Chase, she stood in the middle of the highchair aisle and peed right there in the floor with a store worker looking on! Eeegads! What the he--!

So I'm thinking, maybe she has a urinary tract infection or something. I didn't know. So I call her pediatrician's office and set her up an afternoon appointment. We get there and, of course, she has to pee as soon as we get there. I know they are going to ask her to pee in a cup, but she can't hold it until we are called back into the doctor's office. So we go pee. Then about 20 minutes later they call her back and, of course, they want her to pee. So for like another 20 minutes we try to get her to pee with no luck. Finally the doctor gives her a big glass of Pepsi (which is a special treat because we don't normally give her soda). After a few minutes we go back to the bathroom and she pees. She comes back and says to the doctor, "I peed especially for you Dr. B!"

So they check her urine and no problems there. Great! I'm thinking maybe its just her imagination. Then he says well lets check one more thing. And he doesn't bother to tell me what they are checking for, but he sends his nurse in and they tell Skyler they are going to "tickle her butt." Okay, whatever. They are the professionals, so they know what they are doing. So they stick a q-tip on her butt. She laughs and they leave the room.

Then the next thing I know the doctor comes back in and says, "Its positive." I'm like, "Okay, positive for what?" And he says, "Pinworms." I'm like, "What the fu--!!!" What the heck are those? Call me stupid, but I've never heard of them. So now I'm all freaked out! The doctor acted like it was no big deal, but I'm thinking, I wonder if everybody in the house has them or something. I know, call me paranoid. As if I'm not paranoid enough because I am having the c-section on Friday the 13th!

What in the World?!?! Monica; 3:16 PM 1 comments

- Friday, July 23, 2004

Riding the train

Monica; 7:09 PM 0 comments

I'm so sassy

Monica; 7:08 PM 0 comments

Friday the 13th -

Ok is it me or what. Today my doctor rescheduled my C-Section. We were originally scheduled for August 20th, but since I am measuring at 38 1/2 weeks (and I'm currently only 35 1/2 weeks pregnant) and having problems, waiting until the 20th wasn't a good idea. My due date is August 24th and she thought I might go into labor before the 20th so she rescheduled the date for Friday, August 13th. I didn't really think much about it but today as I was mentioning it to my husband, my mother and my co-workers, everyone is freaking out! Please don't tell an 8 month pregnant mother that having a baby on Friday the 13th is crazy!! I tried to see if she could do it on the 12th or any other day that week, but either the doctor is booked or the hospital is. Seems they had the 13th WIDE open! Hmm, wonder why! Any words of encouragement would be greatly appreciated!!

I have to take Skyler to the doctor today and I must leave in like 5 minutes, so I'll continue this one later....

Ok I am going to have a FREAKING heartattack! I get home today, after taking Skyler to the doctor's office. She had been complaining whenever she had to pee. I mean like totally crying and screaming, so I'm figuring she has a urinary tract infection or something, right. No, she has freaking pinworms!!! Yes, my child has been eating dirt at school and now has pinworms! How gross is that?!?!?! So now I have forever scarred my child from telling her eating dirt has given her worms. When Jonathan walked in the door the first thing she said was, "Daddy I have worms in my butt! I ate a caterpillar!". Kids!

Anyway, so after I get home I see this letter from the NC Internal Revenue Service. I automatically think, oh great, whats this. I open it up and its a "Final Notice" saying we owe like $4,000 in back state taxes! I almost sh-- on myself!! And not only that, but it said FINAL NOTICE. Okay, where were the other notices? So anyway, I get to looking at it and it says it was for 1999 and we owed like $1,900.00 but over the years its accumulted all these penalties, interest, etc. Okay, so where were the notices over the years? And not only that, but we didn't even move to North Carolina until December 15, 1999! So how the hell do we even owe NC taxes when we didn't even live here but for two weeks the whole year. The IRS really pisses me off! Here I am 8 months pregnant and you receive something like this. It totally freaked me out. Not to mention my 2 year old who has been a total hellion all day is screaming and crying. When Jonathan walks through the door I am in tears and losing it. I called our current accountant and she was great, but then I go to look for our 1999 taxes and they are nowhere to be found. Never mind that I have taxes back to 1991 the year we were married, but the only ones missing are the 1999 taxes. She then explains how difficult its going to be to get everything straightened out unless we have a copy of those taxes. Now mind you, my husband deals with nothing. I handle all the financial stuff, insurance, mortgage, car payments, EVERYTHING. I drop this one in his lap and say, "Take care of it!" I'll schedule an appointment or something at the house, i.e. cable, work on air-conditioner, etc. and he is supposed to meet them and EVERY single time he'll call and say, "Can you go, I can't seem to break away from work." No, not this time buddy. You are handling this crisis and I don't want to hear another word about it before I totally lose it!

Notice the ranting of a pregnant, full time working mom of a 2 year old! Excuse me here...

Today Skyler has just been awful. I'm crying and upset about all this stuff and Jonathan walks in the door to tell me is playing ball tonight because one of his buddies who plays for this church team, they don't have enough players. Well excuse me! He just can't ever see when I need help or need him to stay home. Geeze!

Friday the 13th Monica; 1:55 PM 0 comments

- Thursday, July 22, 2004

Its Me!

Monica; 8:44 PM 0 comments

C-Section Scheduled -

This will probably be a very short entry as its 8:45 p.m. and I still have a 2 year old to bathe and get to bed. Its been a very busy day. I worked until 3:15 and then had my appointment with my OB/GYN. We went ahead and scheduled the C-section today. I hate that I have to wait until 39 weeks to have the operation. I had Skyler at 37 weeks and it was great. I am already measuring 38 weeks (and I'm currently 35 1/2), so I know this baby is going to be HUGE! I can barely walk, work and take care of Skyler as it is. I don't know HOW I'm going to go another 4 weeks. I know, bitch, whine, moan groan....

It really sucks because when I was pregnant with Skyler they wanted to put me on bedrest when I was approximately 32 weeks pregnant. Unfortunately, I didn't have short term disability at the time and I stayed on bedrest for a week and then went back to work on 1/2 days. I just couldn't afford to go all those months without my paycheck. So this time I get smart, I have short-term disability and what happens.... I'm healthy as a horse and I don't need to be put off work! Go figure, huh!! I know, I'm thankful that both Chase and I are doing fine. But I guess thats just how the cookie crumbles.

I absolutely LOVE my DVR. I had read that Robyn and her family had gotten one and I thought we should try it. Its awesome! I no longer miss my favorite shows because I'm bathing my daughter or reading her a story, etc. Fooling with the VCR was a nightmare, but the DVR is just wonderful. I highly recommend it to anyone.

Well sorry this one is a bit short, but I really must head upstairs to give Skyler her bath. Jonathan is working really late tonight and then goes into work really early tomorrow morning, so it will be all up to me to get "Punk" ready in the morning.

Until tomorrow.

C-Section Scheduled Monica; 8:28 PM 0 comments

- Wednesday, July 21, 2004

Lets get messy!

Monica; 4:44 PM 1 comments

Pieces of Us -

Ah, where to begin. I have wanted to start a journal/blog for ages, but I could never seem to figure out how and where to begin.... So today here I sit 8 1/2 months pregnant and not feeling well enough to go to work. I figure with a 2 year old and one only weeks away, if I want to start a blog, now would be the time as I probably won't have much time here in a few weeks. I work full time and keeping up with a 2 year old (well she will be 3 next month) and a newborn is going to be challenging I know. I still can't believe our second baby will be here in just a few short weeks! We have been married for almost 14 years! I guess we really waited late to have kids. We waited for 10 years to have Skyler.

It just seemed that while we were in the Army everyone had kids except us. We were the outcasts. But one good thing was we had the money to have a nice home, travel and drive a decent car. I think we saw so many military families struggling with deployments, not much money, having child after child, that we just decided to wait. I'm glad we did. We traveled the world. I couldn't count the amount of countries we have been to. One day I need to sit down and write a nice long journal of our life together. Something I think Skyler might like to read when she was older. I've always been into family history and what not. I wish I had more photos and diaries, etc. from my ancestors.

I'm so excited about blogging. I really would prefer to have my own domain and start my own site, but right now I just don't have enough time to mess with much. I'm sure that will come later. I love reading online journals. My favorites are Robyn, Nance and Jane. I truly love to log on each day and see what those three ladies have to say. They are so funny and entertaining. I'm sure I will never be able to write or entertain as well as they do, but this is a great beginning.

Its amazing to read into someone else's lives. I guess in a way its kind of like voyeurism or something. Some people are just so interesting and I was amazed that all three of those great ladies met their current spouses online.

Well I guess I have bored everyone for now. Not that I even know if or when anyone will come to read this site. I'm not sure how people get traffic coming to their blogs. I guess they just have to be interesting and keep people coming back like the "Smart & Sassy" ladies are. Someday maybe I will have a following like theirs'. In the meantime, I'll just keep writing for now. Until tomorrow....

Pieces of Us Monica; 4:31 PM 0 comments

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